Hi, I’m Min everyone. A 43 year old mother of 5 with crazy working cocker spaniels and a loving husband. I’m now a practising psychic medium, spiritual teacher, EFT practitioner, Reiki master and trainee coach. For one of my course, I was asked to touch base with my trials and challenges to show how they had let me to where I am now. What uncovered during this, was not only the lessons in challenges, but the soul based purpose beneath the journey. I’ve included my mini-assessment response here. As I began to write it, it was as if someone else starting driving the car and everything became clear to me.

 

“I’ve been asked to diaglogue my ‘challenges and adversities.’ Well, I’m not sure I’d call them that anymore- rather ‘life lessons or the journey or self discovery’. However there have been a few ‘challenges’  stand out more in my mind that have got me to exactly where I am today, although I believe they ALL moulded me into who I am today.

 

My strict christian upbringing in many ways, shaped me to become the empathetic, intuitive and very ‘sensitive’ psychic, coach and therapist that I am today. I spent many years believing that everything that I felt was ‘of the devil’ and fighting and resisting all that I felt around me or from people. I was the child with constant recurring nightmares and a fear of the dark! The child that could read the room and all the people within it without a word. I would sit heavily in my stomach like an aching pit of heaviness and I didn’t understand this until well in to my 30’s.

 

Many years later, I was married with children. My husband, unlike my had had no religion in his life, and had come from a very practical, almost ‘black and white’ background. While I loved him deeply, including his family, being a little ‘different’ or ‘weird’ as he would term me, was very challenging!  He just couldn’t even begin to understand me or m approach to life. To him, me talking about anything spiritual was like speaking a different language to him! You could say I stuck out in his family and mine, like a sore thumb, and it could be a very isolating place to be.

 

The feeling of being ‘evil’ coupled with the feeling of being ‘weird’ and needing desperately to be accepted for who I was an my differences, took many, many years to overcome, and I only really stepped into my gift fully, two years ago, around early 2022 whilst continuing with my holistic therapy practice. This final bit of resistance left when I had 3-4 years of debilitating post concussion. I remember lying on my back in the dark after many many months/ years of illness, and praying that if God could make me better, I would work for spirit. It was my promise to the heavens and so I had to stick to it! Not much longer after, I ended up doing my first big, imprompu reading for my reiki master!! Out of nowhere-a chat with a cuppa- and suddenly I brought in a bus load of family!

It was happening, and I couldn’t go back now! I’d promised after all.

 

This time last year, after around 8 months of pain in my arms, I was diagnosed with cubital tunnel syndrome and told to stop all of my holistic therapies. This meant that a decade of self employment, and a successful business and reputation, had to end! As each month passed, I lost all hope of being able to reclaim my beloved therapies! That meant giving no more massage, no more reflexology and no more facials. My bread and butter money was gone! I had to give away all my regular clients to my friends within the trade!

 

This could have hit me very hard, but luckily the universe had begun to teach me not only that everything happens for a reason but the power of acceptance and surrender via mindfulness. I knew I couldn’t change what was, I simply had to sit with it. There was literally no other option open to me. ‘Resist it and be unhappy, or  accept and allow space for happiness and peace.’

 

I immediately knew that I had to look at how I could ‘reshape’ my business in a way that I COULD work and in a way that was soul aligned for me. This meant all things spiritual. This was totally out of my comfort zone and yet following the secret whisperings of my heart. This meant teaching and practising everything I had learnt on my spiritual path! This is what I COULD do, was well equipped to do and where I was supposed to be! With the acceptance of this, came the freedom. And it began to feel more comfortable to me. A bit like trying out a new yoga pose might do to start with. But the challenges or life lessons, were the very things I need to learn in order to give back to others later! I began to realise this. To see it as the roots of purpose.

 

In my life I have overcome quite severe anxiety and depressive tendencies, miscarriage, loneliness, grief, an emotionally abusive relationship, an oppresive religious upbringing, a teen pregnancy and shame,  mild addiction and the exposure to alcohol addiction within my orbit. With this realisation came the awareness and strength that I was ready to help others with all of my natural God given resources and life lessons. Drawing on the intuitive, psychic ability, the teaching, the mindfulness, and the soul based-learning as well as my EFT training to better help people. Now I’m training as an mindfulness life coach and NLP practitioner so that all of these practices will enhance my abilities to help as many people as I can going forward.

*I wish and choose to help others with their fears and anxieties as I was once fearful and anxious.

 

*I wish and choose to help dispell the fear and the myths around psychic mediums as I was once afraid of them and the practice itself. I was fearful through ignorance.

 

*I wish and choose to bring people back to a state of prescence through mindfulness, raising the vibration of the planet because I was once stuck within the confines of my mind and the projected past and future and this is unsustainable to humanity as a whole and inevitably leads to suffering.

 

*I wish and choose deeply, to connect people with their own spirituality and their own soul, as I once felt adrift on a dark sea of disconnection. I wish to align them with divine consciousness.

 

*I wish and choose deeply to empower people to see their souls truth and to gain confidence in the power of their own intuitive guidance. To coach them to rehabiliate and save themselves!!

I have learnt not to rescue but to faciliate those to rescue themselves.

 

*I wish and choose to show people the value of the one I see before me in 121 sessions and beyond and to allow them to see their own reflections in the mirror and smile! To restore balance within the heart and mind through this process. To know we are all already worthy and already enough in in our true essence. The ‘being’ essence. The soul. Everything else is just illusion! We are already whole.

Since writing this piece, I realise that I’m no longer ‘drawn’ to this, but rather, it’s somewhere I HAVE to be. It feels ‘realer’ to me than anything else, because it feels so, so so much bigger than me now, yet is intrinsic to who I’ve become. Every lesson disguised as a challenge or hurdle sculpted me beautifully into the one I was meant to be. So now these words feel like a like a soul-based mission than anything else!

I hope it is blessed. “

 

That sums up what I wrote for my reflective mini assignment. I realised I was already living my purpose to a degree and that it involved a truly heart based approach. To heal others on an almost global scale and to offer divine connection wherever it could be found. Realising that the butterfly effect was unfolding all around me and would continue to do so if I could just keep going with grace, integrity and humility.

 

 

Well, you need to ask yourself a few questions.

What are the things that you love to do? If you can’t answer this question straight away then you may need to dig deeper.

Are there parts of your job right now that put fire in your belly and allow you to totally lose yourself in the moment?! What about outside of work?

What is the thing you would do in life even if you weren’t paid to do it? What would you do for the sheer love of it and not because it pays a wage? Allow it to come to you as a feeling. Or a remembering..

 

Now try to couple these answers with:

 

What positive things have you learnt within your life?

What have you overcome?

Who or what did you need years ago and didn’t get?

 

The answers to your questions will normally point you to where you need to be, or where you will need to be.  And the lessons will keep coming as they’re needed for our soul’s evolution. Yet, once the lesson is learnt, we won’t need to repeat it. It’ll have sculpted you beautifully. Until the next lesson.

 

Ride the lessons of life like waves on the high tide. They’ll get you to shore eventually. They’re already creating and moulding you into who and what you need to be. 

 

A remember to listen to the soft stirrings of the heart and the gentle whispers of the soul. They will always serve you well.

You can find your purpose there, and it’s never too late to live it!

 

Lots of love. As always. Min.x